My parent has cancer and it really sucks : real-life advice from real-life teens / Marc Silver, Maya Silver.
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- ISBN: 140227307X
- ISBN: 9781402273070
- ISBN: 9781402273070
- ISBN: 140227307X
- Physical Description: 261 pages ; 21 cm
- Publisher: Naperville, Illinois : Sourcebooks Fire, 
|Formatted Contents Note:||
1. The news : A hunch ; Why your parents told you the way they did ; Why you reacted the way you did ; A charged word -- 2. Cancer 101 : The big question marks ; Treatments and their side effects ; The cure: why isn't there one yet? ; True or false ; Tell me more! -- 3. Let's talk: how to keep your family communication lines wide open : How much do you want to know? ; What if you're out of the loop? ; Reality check: how far in the know can you go? ; How to keep talking--even if it's in writing -- 4. How things will change during cancer : Teenage change is normal! ; Cancer sneaking up on you ; Changes to expect ; Changes in your parent ; Siblings -- 5. Parentification : How it happens ; Catching a break ; Silence isn't golden ; The big picture -- 6. Dealing with stress : How to beat the cancer blues ; Exploring the options -- 7. Risky business : Former bad boys: Gary and Jose turn it around ; Former bad girls: true confessions -- 8. The power (and the limits) of optimism and faith : Think positive ; Faith and spirituality -- 9. The benefit of friends : What you do (and don't) want from your friends ; Girls are from Mercury, boys are from Neptune ; Accepting help ; Have fun with your friends if you can ; But can they still come over? ; Social networks: Facebook, Twitter, blogs, and more ; Dealing with friend problems ; New friends -- 10. School daze : School = more stress or a place to escape? ; To announce or not to announce ; Telling the school ; How the school can help ; Dilemmas, dilemmas ; Keeping grades up ; The need to achieve ; Pulling a Bueller -- 11. Seeking support : The adult who knows you ; Seeing a therapist ; Group support -- 12. Facing a dire prognosis : Facing the news ; How long do we have? ; When the bad news isn't all bad ; Find hope when things seem hopeless ; Living for the moment ; A different kind of hope ; What if you feel closer to the parent with cancer? ; Avoidance ; Making memories -- 13. Losing a parent to cancer : A dictionary of emotions ; Mourning doesn't come with an expiration date ; All kinds of questions ; Life goes on ; Dealing with your emotions ; School can be a comfort--or a pain ; Music can make it better ; Staying connected -- 14. The new normal: life after cancer : What happens now? ; New normal hiccups and surprises ; Struggling in the aftermath ; Becoming a activist ; Same old you ; Silver linings -- Appendices: A. The camp for kids coping with a parent's cancer ; B. In their own words ; C. The parents' guide ; D. Resources.
Collects stories and advice from over one hundred teens who have dealt with a parent battling cancer.
|Target Audience Note:||
Grade 9 to 12.
Grade 9 to 12.
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My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks
From the Introduction:
We hope that the voices in this book create a community of support to give you strength as you deal with your parent's cancer. Because if you can learn from the 20/20 hindsight and mistakes of others who've been there, you'll be better prepared to handle the situations you will encounter.
A parent's cancer is uncharted territory, and the uncertainty about what's happening and what's next can be nerve-racking. "Among the things I wish I was told with more clarity is: here's what your mom's going to be going through, here's what you need to do, what you need to be aware of..." said Aaron, who was a teen when his mom had breast cancer. This book doesn't have all the answers, but it will provide you with an idea of what might be going on-and how to get the information you need if your parents aren't good communicators.
One of the most important things we learned from interviewing so many teens--and one of the themes of this guide--is that everyone deals with their parent's cancer differently. Some people cope just fine. Others have a very hard time. A lot depends on the nature of the diagnosis. Is your parent facing a cancer that has a good treatment success rate? Or is the cancer a difficult one to treat?
Your reaction also depends on you. Personalities differ. Some teens want lots and lots of information. Others want the bare minimum. Some worry a great deal. Others feel confident that everything will be okay. Some lose their focus at school and see grades slip. Others hyper-focus on keeping grades up. Some want to talk about it all. Others don't. And that's okay.
One thing we can all agree on, though, is that cancer sucks. For everyone involved. We hope this book will help you cope in the months and years ahead.
As hard as times may get, you will make it through. Take it from Bailee Richardson, who was twelve when her mom was diagnosed: "Stay strong. Everything's going to work itself out in the end. Don't ever let it get the best of you."
Finally, here are two rules for this book:
Rule 1: Teens, don't feel guilty. You have your own way of coping, and you don't have to behave like any other teen in this book.
Rule 2: Parents, do not use the book to make your teen talk if he or she doesn't want to talk.
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