My parent has cancer and it really sucks : real-life advice from real-life teens / Marc Silver, Maya Silver.
Record details
- ISBN: 140227307X
- ISBN: 9781402273070
- ISBN: 9781402273070
- ISBN: 140227307X
- Physical Description: 261 pages ; 21 cm
- Publisher: Naperville, Illinois : Sourcebooks Fire, [2013]
Content descriptions
Formatted Contents Note: | 1. The news : A hunch ; Why your parents told you the way they did ; Why you reacted the way you did ; A charged word -- 2. Cancer 101 : The big question marks ; Treatments and their side effects ; The cure: why isn't there one yet? ; True or false ; Tell me more! -- 3. Let's talk: how to keep your family communication lines wide open : How much do you want to know? ; What if you're out of the loop? ; Reality check: how far in the know can you go? ; How to keep talking--even if it's in writing -- 4. How things will change during cancer : Teenage change is normal! ; Cancer sneaking up on you ; Changes to expect ; Changes in your parent ; Siblings -- 5. Parentification : How it happens ; Catching a break ; Silence isn't golden ; The big picture -- 6. Dealing with stress : How to beat the cancer blues ; Exploring the options -- 7. Risky business : Former bad boys: Gary and Jose turn it around ; Former bad girls: true confessions -- 8. The power (and the limits) of optimism and faith : Think positive ; Faith and spirituality -- 9. The benefit of friends : What you do (and don't) want from your friends ; Girls are from Mercury, boys are from Neptune ; Accepting help ; Have fun with your friends if you can ; But can they still come over? ; Social networks: Facebook, Twitter, blogs, and more ; Dealing with friend problems ; New friends -- 10. School daze : School = more stress or a place to escape? ; To announce or not to announce ; Telling the school ; How the school can help ; Dilemmas, dilemmas ; Keeping grades up ; The need to achieve ; Pulling a Bueller -- 11. Seeking support : The adult who knows you ; Seeing a therapist ; Group support -- 12. Facing a dire prognosis : Facing the news ; How long do we have? ; When the bad news isn't all bad ; Find hope when things seem hopeless ; Living for the moment ; A different kind of hope ; What if you feel closer to the parent with cancer? ; Avoidance ; Making memories -- 13. Losing a parent to cancer : A dictionary of emotions ; Mourning doesn't come with an expiration date ; All kinds of questions ; Life goes on ; Dealing with your emotions ; School can be a comfort--or a pain ; Music can make it better ; Staying connected -- 14. The new normal: life after cancer : What happens now? ; New normal hiccups and surprises ; Struggling in the aftermath ; Becoming a activist ; Same old you ; Silver linings -- Appendices: A. The camp for kids coping with a parent's cancer ; B. In their own words ; C. The parents' guide ; D. Resources. |
Summary, etc.: | Collects stories and advice from over one hundred teens who have dealt with a parent battling cancer. |
Target Audience Note: | Grade 9 to 12. Grade 9 to 12. |
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Subject: | Children of cancer patients > Juvenile literature. Cancer > Psychological aspects > Juvenile literature. Children of cancer patients. Cancer > Psychological aspects. |
Location | Call Number / Copy Notes | Barcode | Shelving Location | Status | Due Date |
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Oliver Wolcott Library - Litchfield | 616.99 SIL (Text) | 36123148071101 | Young Adult Nonfiction | Available | - |
Canterbury Public Library | YA 616.99 SILVER (Text) | 33190000365049 | Young Adult Nonfiction | Available | - |
Union Free Public Library | YA 616.99 SIL (Text) | 34913000186878 | Young Adult Nonfiction | Available | - |
Kirkus Review
My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks
Kirkus Reviews
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A guide for teens who have a parent with cancer is chock-full of information and advice but sometimes misses the mark. The authors, the husband and now-adult daughter of a woman who had cancer, include advice and personal experience from social workers, teens whose parents have or have had cancer, and adults who were teens when their parents were diagnosed. One chapter explicates common cancer terms; others offer advice for finding support, communicating with family and friends, and dealing with the loss of a parent. Although the many voices offer a variety of perspectives, the book assumes a middle-class, suburban readership: All families are assumed to have cars, and a chapter on "parentification" assumes that any teen taking on a parental role after a parent's diagnosis will be doing so for the first time. Gender-based assumptions seem more harmful than helpful (why separate the "Risky Business" chapter into stories about "Bad Boys" and "Bad Girls" when the behaviors described are all very similar?), and a few of the bits of helpful advice are downright baffling ("Don't spend [your time with a dying parent] down in the dumps. You don't want to have false hope. Hope is an important thing to have"). There are some helpful ideas and anecdotes here, but it's not for every teen. (Nonfiction. 12-18)]] Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.
School Library Journal Review
My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks
School Library Journal
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Gr 7 Up-This well-organized handbook aims to guide teens through the experience of having an ill parent. Offering "survival tips" from those who have experienced the ordeal firsthand and including "words of wisdom" from trained professionals, it provides honest, practical, and heartfelt advice. Short chapters include "Let's Talk: How to Keep Your Family Communication Lines Wide Open," "How Things Will Change During Cancer," "Dealing with Stress," "The Power (and the Limits) of Optimism and Faith," "Seeking Support," "Facing a Dire Prognosis," and "Losing a Parent to Cancer." Readers are reminded that "cancer doesn't follow rules" and can impact families of any background. The Silvers effectively provide guidance and insight for teens seeking the ability to cope so that "the new normal" (a term used to describe life after cancer) can be realized.-Kathryn Diman, Bass Harbor Memorial Library, Bernard, ME (c) Copyright 2013. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.
BookList Review
My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks
Booklist
From Booklist, Copyright (c) American Library Association. Used with permission.
An estimated one million teens in America live with a parent who has suffered from cancer. This guide for coping with the scary reality of serious illness is written by a Âfather-daughter team who have had plenty of experience Marc's wife and Maya's mother is a cancer survivor. Drawing on their experiences, the Silvers offer advice for finding solace in people who have been there and who have found ways to cope. The book is fairly comprehensive, addressing changes in a teen's own identity as well as changes in family and homelife that are beyond his or her control. Pragmatic suggestions are offered, such as maintaining routines, finding artistic outlets for intense emotion, and using exercise to help cope with stress. Honest discussions center on both the power of optimism but also on facing the most dire prognoses and the very real possibility of losing a parent. It's admirable that the authors don't sugarcoat the realities of cancer and will speak with an honesty that teens will identify with and find comfort in.--Anderson, Erin Copyright 2010 Booklist